stop insulting yourself. it doesn’t help.
But what if it’s true
it still doesn’t help. you can call yourself as many names as you want, but it won’t make you a better, happier, healthier or kinder person.
punishment doesn’t work. only positive reinforcement does. be kind to yourself and get better.
#but like#what should i do instead??#i know i shouldnt insult myself but also theres nothing to compliment imho#thats my predicament
try speaking neutrally about yourself!
“you fucking idi- it’s not that big a mistake.”
“you’re worthle- it’s okay.”
“you’ll never amount to- well, i’m doing alright, i guess.”
ever heard the phrase “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”? that applies not to just to others but to yourself as well. it’s better to think neutrally or not at all than negatively. and once you’ve got into the habit of that, it’s much easier to move to uplifting yourself!
But what if I constantly fail and fall on my face whenever I try to better myself even in the smallest way, and I have a constant president spanning over my entire life proving this to be right?
it’s probably not as bad as you think it is. there’s every possibility that you’re focusing so much on your mistakes that you don’t realise how much better you’re getting.
pick yourself up, dust yourself off, apologise to anyone you hurt, don’t beat yourself up, and keep trying. so long as you keep trying to do better you’re doing the right thing.
(Source : helperhoopoe, via adorkable1291)
